Every fight is an opportunity to build trust
A buddy of mine in college would say this every time he made a new friend,
๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ธ๐ข๐ณ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ง๐ช๐ณ๐ด๐ต ๐ง๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต.
And whenever he said that I would look at him like he was crazy.
One day, I asked him to explain this crazy theory.
He said, ๐๐ช๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ช๐ญ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ช๐ต. ๐๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ธ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ฑ ๐ช๐ด ๐ข ๐ง๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ฑ.๐๐ฆ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ & ๐ธ๐ฆ'๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ด๐ต ๐ด๐ช๐ฅ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฏ. ๐๐ถ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ง๐ช๐ณ๐ด๐ต ๐ง๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต, ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ.
And that always stuck with me.
โ๏ธ Most of us avoid uncomfortable conversations like the plague.
Any tension in the workplace just stresses us out.
And if we get "feedback", we feel attacked & exhausted afterward.
๐ง But what if we reframed it in a different light?
๐ What if we saw conflicts as our most authentic selves really meeting each other?
Then we wouldn't dread having a talk with a coworker who keeps letting us down.
We'd see it as a chance to understand what they're going through & to assert ourselves in a real way.
No matter how messy or volatile it gets, as long we're respectful
We're always going to come out of it a little bit wiser
A little more honest & true to ourselves.
๐ And believe it or not, a bit more closer with each other as well.